Jamie left for a weekend at the beach with his two best friends, I picked Craig up from his friend's house, and Ken was out golfing. Craig and I holed up in the family room with Stouffer's lasagna (lactose be damned) and a DVD. I spent the entire evening on the couch and am doing a bit better this morning. The horrible heat we had all week finally broke, and it's beautiful out today!
So, for Quote It Saturday, I wanted to share another quote from our own Toni Bernhard's wonderful book, How To Be Sick: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill and Their Caregivers. This is actually a quote of a quote that Toni included in her book, in a chapter about letting go:
If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace. If you let go completely, you will have complete peace and freedom. Your struggles with the world will have come to an end.
- A Still Forest Pool by Ajahn Chah, a Thai Forest Monk
Letting go is something I could always use help with, as someone who was formerly used to always being in control. Of course, CFS teaches us a lot about letting go, as we often have no control over our own bodies, but I still need plenty of help letting go emotionally.
This weekend, there is a second type of letting go that is on my mind: parents letting kids grow up and go out on their own. It was very difficult for Ken and I to let Jamie go on this weekend away with his friends. I'm not sure he's ever managed two sleep-over nights in a row before, and I'm sure the kids will be very active down at the beach this weekend. Jamie's energy and stamina have been low lately because of his Lyme treatment, and he was already feeling run-down yesterday from going to his first soccer practice Thursday evening.
Despite all this, though, we let him go because it was so important to him. I think all parents struggle with letting go and with giving up control over their kids, but when your child has a chronic illness, it's even harder. I feel strongly, though, that my kids have to live their lives. Although I want to protect them from doing too much and crashing, I know that sometimes they just have to go all out and pay the consequences...and I know they feel it's worth it. Also, I am very grateful to my wonderful friends (mothers of Jamie's two best friends) who give my kids the opportunities to do things that I can't manage - they take him along on activity-filled days at the beach, snowboarding, and amusement parks. I'm glad they can experience these things, in spite of our limitations.
So, I am letting go. I'm hoping Jamie is having a great time with his friends, and I'm hoping he won't crash for too long afterward (they have Monday off, too, so he'll have a day to recover). Craig is having two friends sleep over tonight - more letting go! And I plan to take it easy this weekend and recover myself.
Hope you're enjoying your weekend!
P.S. Toni's book was released this week - you can read my review at my book blog.)
P.P.S. If you like reading as much as I do, you might enjoy these two shows that aired on NPR yesterday, featuring two hot authors.)