She talks about the need to recognize and feel your emotions - that's the only way to move forward. When she mentioned the pressures of our society to "stay positive," it reminded me of the early years of my illness, when my family was focused on "cheering me up" and "getting my mind off my illness" when what I really needed was simple recognition and acceptance of what I was going through.
We all need to grieve our losses. I write often about finding joy, being grateful, and taking positive steps, but this doesn't mean ignoring the darker feelings - you have to allow yourself to feel anger, sadness, resentment, and other difficult emotions in order to move past them.
Incidentally, today is my own father's birthday. He died 2 years ago of melanoma. I miss him every single day, but he's really been on my mind even more this week, when I would normally be picking out books I think he'd like or choosing a new golf course for him to try.
There are all kinds of grief - plus other difficult emotions, too. David talks here about emotional agility - being able to really feel all of our emotions, positive ones and darker ones - and it's a good lesson to remember.
Have you allowed yourself to grieve what you have lost? Have you been able to truly feel those emotions and move forward?