You may have thought about life improvements like eating healthier or improving your sleep habits or even learning something new. Changing habits can be hard, though, and even more challenging when you live with chronic illness and are plagued by pain, exhaustion, and other symptoms. It's not impossible, though! You can still improve your life and change your habits - you just need to think more along the lines of tiny changes and using tools instead of resolutions and willpower (which don't really work for anyone!).
My latest article,
Strategies and Tools for Changing Habits, was published on the ProHealth website about a month ago. You can read it there, at the link, or I will reprint the full text below.
What habits would you like to change or improve in your own life?
Reprinted with permission from
ProHealth:
Strategies & Tools for Changing Habits
All that January buzz about New Year’s
resolutions is dying down now, but you can change habits and improve your life
at any time of year. It’s tough when your life is limited by chronic illness to
hear all the non-stop talk about major life changes online, on TV, and in
magazines at the start of every year. Who can muster up “willpower” when you
are stuck on the couch or in constant pain?
Life improvements and habit change are still possible,
though, even with chronic illness. The key is to think in terms of small
changes made using tools and strategies, instead of that overwhelming (and
frankly, ineffective) concept of willpower. No, we can’t just push through our
limits to accomplish things…but guess what? Most healthy people can’t make
long-term, sustainable changes that way either!
Whether you want to eat healthier, get to bed earlier, learn
to meditate, or learn a new hobby, here are some strategies and tools for
changing your habits, one small step at a time:
Think Small!
Tiny steps in the right direction are more effective – and
far more doable for those with chronic illness – than wide-sweeping resolutions.
Maybe one of your goals is to eat healthier. Instead of trying to make a bunch
of changes all at once (and probably soon reverting to old habits), change one
small aspect of your diet at a time. Maybe your first step is simply to eat
more fruits and vegetables. Once that has become a habit (perhaps in a month or
two), then add in another small step, like reducing sugar. Little by little,
you will move toward your goal. Baby steps!
Write It Down.
There has been plenty of research on this, and it applies
equally well to those with chronic illness. Write out the habits you’d like to
change or the goals you want to reach. Don’t stop there, though. I used to
write goals every January and then be disappointed every December that I didn’t
meet them! Then, I started adding specific objectives under each goal and
small, measurable targets for each objective – baby steps, remember? In the
example above of wanting to eat healthier, it might look like this:
Goal: To Eat Healthier
Objective #1: Eat more fruits
& vegetables
Target 1: Buy frozen fruits &
veggies and pre-cut produce to make sure they are always on hand and ready to
use.
Target 2: Ask friend/family member
for help making a pot of vegetable soup to freeze each weekend so I have easy,
healthy meals ready during the week.
Target 3: Make breakfast healthier
by adding fruit to oatmeal or smoothies or adding veggies to my eggs.
Objective #2: Reduce added sugar.
Etc.
Both breaking your desired habit changes into tiny, doable
steps and writing them down can help
to make slow, steady progress, as long as you don’t write them and forget
them. Review objectives and targets at
the start of every week, to remind yourself of the target(s) you are currently
working on and the bigger picture you are working toward. It also helps to
track your progress, perhaps with a simple checklist for each week or, in the
example above, writing down how many servings of fruits and vegetables you eat
each day.
Get Smart & Learn
More.
Expanding your knowledge can help you to change your habits.
Maybe you want to meditate every day. A good first step is simply to learn
about different kinds of meditation by reading some articles or watching some
online videos. This first learning step can help to narrow down your options so
you choose things to try that you think might work for you. Remember…baby
steps! Start with just 5 minutes a day, testing out different approaches that
you learned about.
Link to Existing
Habits.
I have found this strategy particularly helpful, to link a
new habit I want to adopt to an existing habit that is already a solid part of
my routine. For instance, I wanted to do some yoga stretches each day because I
always felt better after I did them. The solution was to insert my simple
10-minute yoga floor routine into an existing part of my day. I chose morning
because it helps to loosen up stiff muscles, and I inserted the yoga stretches
after I shower or get washed up and before I go downstairs for breakfast. It
worked! Those yoga stretches are now an integral part of my morning routine.
I’ve done the same thing to have more reading time. My husband and I turn off
the TV at 9:30 every evening and get ready for bed. Then, we have an hour in
bed to read before our lights-out time at 10:30. Now, it’s become a habit, and reading
is a part of our evening routine.
Know Yourself.
Knowing yourself can help to set you up for success. In my
yoga example, I added yoga to my morning routine because that’s when I feel
best. Maybe for you, mornings are difficult but you function better in the
afternoon, so you can try to establish a new habit then. Self-help guru
Gretchen Rubin, author of
The Happiness Project and
Better Than Before,
talks about lots of different ways to know yourself, like whether you are an
abstainer or a moderator. Say you are trying to give up sugar. Will you be more
successful with a moderation strategy of having one square of extra-dark
chocolate a day? Or would you end up eating the whole bar and are better off
just not bringing the chocolate into the house? She has many more examples of
ways to know yourself that can help you to make habit changes that fit
your needs and will stick.
Keep Trying.
You know the old adage: “If at first you don’t succeed, try,
try again!” It’s been around for so long for a reason – it works! The key to
long-time success in changing habits is to not give up at the first sign of a
challenge. Perhaps you want to get to sleep earlier, and you’ve set yourself a
target to turn off the TV and get in bed by 10 pm. You do well the first week,
and then you get caught up in a new Netflix show and end up binge-watching past
midnight. Oops! Remember it’s only a minor setback. Re-read your targets the
next morning and re-dedicate yourself to get back on track. Or maybe you decide
your target isn’t quite right for you and needs some tweaking – that’s fine,
too. It’s more important to keep trying than to have a quick success.
Establishing new habits that will stick isn’t easy,
especially for those living with exhaustion, pain, and limitations, but it is
doable, with the right strategies and tools. Forget all that rah-rah noise
about New Year’s resolutions – Run a marathon! Write a book! Lose 20 pounds! –
and instead focus on small steps you can take today that will help to change
your habits for good and bring you closer to meeting your goals. Baby steps!
Suzan Jackson is a
freelance writer who has had ME/CFS for 17 years and also has Lyme disease.
Both of her sons got ME/CFS 15 years ago, but one is now fully recovered after
10 years of mild illness and the other just graduated from college, with ME/CFS
plus three tick-borne infections. Sue writes two blogs: Living with ME/CFS at http://livewithcfs.blogspot.com and Book By Book at http://bookbybook.blogspot.com You can follow her on Twitter at
@livewithmecfs.
