Toni is a long-time online friend who also has ME/CFS, but more importantly, she is the author of How to Be Sick: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill and Their Caregivers and How To Wake Up: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide to Navigating Joy and Sorrow, as well as the author of a monthly column on living with chronic illness in Psychology Today. I highly recommend How To Be Sick - it's an inspirational and thought-provoking book that has helped me a lot. I still need to read and review How To Wake Up. I think I could use it about now.
In this month's column in Psychology Today, Toni writes about How to Talk to Yourself. As with all of her writing, it is an insightful essay that I found very helpful. In it, she discusses how positive self-talk can help you to feel better and have compassion for yourself. This is something I really needed to hear today, both because of on-going struggles with a bad crash and also ongoing struggles in an important relationship in my life. I want to write out some of the quotes that she includes in this essay in large letters and post them all over my house!
Two of my favorites:
"The greatest griefs are those we cause ourselves" - Sophocles
"Holding on is believing that there's only a past; letting go is knowing that there is a future." - author Daphne Rose Kingma
I hope you find Toni's words as inspirational as I did today. You can link to some of her other insightful posts at the bottom of the page. And I highly recommend her book, How To Be Sick.